Front Porch Forum recently added an “In Memoriam” category for loved ones to remember someone who has passed – be it with a formal obituary and announcement of services, or simply a remembrance.
We thought these were well worth a share:
Since its quiet addition, members have honored the memory of Jim, of Starksboro, who had a “spirit of laughter, generosity, kindness, fellowship and sweet love of others,” Mad River Valley’s Marya, who loved “volunteering in the community, playing golf, bridge, and bocce, gardening, and taking long walks with her canine companion, Sadie,” and Bolton’s Sarah, who had “big blue eyes; big eye ashes; wonderful black curly hair; a great BIG heart; & very loving nature.”
Poultney remembers “Dr. Scott, passionate explorer and advocate for Earth’s creatures.” And, following Tom’s service and memorial bench dedication, Greensboro neighbors are invited to “come to Willey’s Store for family greetings, donuts, and a walk around the lake, or any part thereof.”
Finally, neighbors also learned that the former Middlesex town clerk, Cindy, hated the cold. “Even though my mom lived here in town for 40 years, winter was her nemesis. Per her wishes, our family will be spreading her ashes over a warm sunny tropical island this coming winter.”
In frustration, Bob turned to the Barre City Forum to offer “a new grill that I found too complicated to put together is available for free in my driveway.”
We thought Bob’s gratitude posting that followed was well worth a share:
“After experiencing difficulty assembling a new gas grill, I offered it up for free on FPF. I was pleased to have four or five people offer to help with assembly! After a couple of hours, the grill is functioning after great concentration and conversation. I met a new friend and was really pleased to see so much generosity. Thanks to all!”
Elizabeth posted this challenge on the Stowe Forum. We thought it was well worth a share:
“It seems that no matter how hard I try to avoid it, I am turning 60 this coming Tuesday, August 12. I am, once again (I did this for my 50th), asking everyone to celebrate my special day in a very special way. I want 60 people to perform one or two Acts of Kindness on my birthday and post your efforts that day here on FPF. To clarify, I’m gunning for a total of 60 acts, everyone can do one or two and it will add up to 60 or hopefully more. For the more ambitious, the overachievers in the crowd, those who feel a challenge isn’t real unless it’s a mega-challenge, feel free to do 60 yourself in one day.
I am giving you plenty of time to plan. Nothing is too big or too small, just go out there and give to someone else in a kind way. Buy a stranger a coffee, donate blood, give compliments all day long, volunteer, donate money, hold the door open all day, make a meal for a shelter, CALL YOUR MOTHER!, easy stuff like that. I can’t wait to see what you all come up with and thank you for thinking of me by celebrating with love.”
This posting, and the subsequent “Best of FPF,” set off a bevy of positive activity on Front Porch Forum! In addition to many “happy birthday!” and “great idea!” postings, here are some specific acts that people from all over the region thought to share:
• Happy birthday! To celebrate you and a kinder world, I sent my friend money to treat herself to a fun coffee while she’s in the middle of a big move. – Sarah
• Attended a softball tourney in Whitingham to watch the grandkids while Mom & Dad played. The food truck woman was so nice with the kids! Brought her a mixed garden flower bouquet the 2nd day and she was delighted. Doesn’t take much. My yard is full of flowers and that’s what I have to give, plus a recycled salsa jar. So be it. One very small act of kindness that brought a smile. And crazy gardeners like me just love to share! – Sara
• We bring an 87 year old every week grocery shopping or to appointments. Takes many hours as she is not well and very slow. She lives by herself children are busy. My husband mows her lawn. It’s nice to continue her friendship. She watched my children now 43 and 45. – Sharon
• What a great idea. I try to do acts of kindness everyday. My latest idea is to give cold water to any person on the street who needs it. Water is far more important than food, especially on these very hot days. When it comes to food I give away one of anything I can get two for one. As a volunteer for Age Well on Tuesday I am visting a 90 year old blind woman. Then I am taking another client to a doctor’s appointment. By the end of that day I probably will forget to email you. The 60’s were great. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did. Happy Birthday. – Diane
• My birthday is also on August 12, and I am grateful to have the opportunity to be turning 75. I like your post and my wife and I will be donating money to the Arlington Rescue Squad as our Act of kindness.
– Bryan and Dottie
• Happy Birthday. My husband and I visited a family member who has had two surgeries since April of this year. He is better but does not get out much. We had a great visit and he seemed very happy to have company. – Joanne
• I took a disadvantaged child school shopping. – Mary
• 1. I babysat 3 kids for a nice cpl who have no family here in Vermont so they can have a date night! 2. Bought coffee for my car pool Driver Allan. 3. Bought coffee for my car pool driver Crystal. 4. Helped my Car Pool Driver Collette load free pallets into her minivan… – Janet
• Yesterday I made arrangements to transport a 95 year old former resident of our island community to our 71st Annual Ladies Tea. The transport involved a car to a pontoon boat to a golf cart then back. Her smile was radiant to be able to see 39 of her old friends. – Jean
• In line at CVS, the fellow ahead of me was told his credit card was “refused.” I paid for it. He told me he got paid on Friday and could “pay me back.” Then we just stood there, looking at each other. He got it and threw his arms around me. – Allen
• My kids and I are dropping two coolers of ice pops off at two separate places this afternoon. One at the courts at Roosevelt Park. And one at the playground or Pavillion at Oakledge. Happy Birthday, what an awesome way to share. – Jaice
• Great idea. I am donating some plants to the Hinesburg Flower sale on your birthday. I will take a little food over to the food shelf, too. – Deborah
• A shout out to Cassella’s driver who exits the truck to wheel the empty trash cans up the driveway for our elderly neighbor. It ain’t the big stuff…. – Ken
• I will be volunteering at the Burlington Food Shelf (Feeding Chittenden) on Tuesday preparing sandwiches and then washing dishes. Hope this counts. Happy 60th youngster. I turned 70 this year. – Ray
• As a regular blood donor and believer in doing random acts of kindness every day, you can count on me to participate. – Sandi
• I belong to a group of what our leader has called “Kindness Angels”. Since 2016, we have made and distributed over 107,000 Be Kind signs worldwide. She began with one sign on her fence in response to the extreme negativity emerging at that time. The movement grew from there. Now, in addition to making and sharing the signs, we try to do at least one act of kindness every day. It really is a brain-changing activity. – Molly
• Shared a perennial plant division and some advice with a budding gardener. – Sara
• I bought a gift card to give to someone who really wants what it’s for! – Thea
• In celebration of Elizabeth’s birthday, I called a friend who is going thru a rough patch. I called to cheer her up, let her know she is important to me and that she is going to be ok. We had a really good chat with some shared laughter, recognition of some interests in common and a lunch date. I got more out of the call than I expected and the whole day seemed lighter and brighter. Thanks, Elizabeth!! – Anne
• You asked people to celebrate your birthday by doing something nice and posting it on FPF!! What a wonderful idea. So, my good deed is to make a donation in your honor to the Stowe Community Fund. My birthday wish is that you get many more than 60 postings today. – Tom
Lisa posted this plea in the St. Albans Town Forum. We thought it was well worth the share.
“Friends, neighbors… we need your help. Our garden has staged a full-scale cucumber coup, and we are losing the battle. They’re multiplying faster than we can pickle, slice, or sneak into unsuspecting salads. If you’ve been dreaming of making tzatziki, cucumber water, or just want an excuse to whack something with a chef’s knife — your moment has arrived.
Swing by our driveway and liberate some cukes. Take one, take ten… take enough to build a cucumber fort.
Save us before we’re forced to start adding them to pancakes.”
Cindi posted the following appreciation in the New North End Forum in Burlington. We thought was well worth a share:
“As Keith and I close on our house, I think how I will miss our neighborhood the most. You have all been so generous with your appreciation for our gardens, kept the Little Free Pantry stocked, visited our fairies, and shared your garden bounty with our free veggie stand. I loved sitting out on the back deck and watching baseball warm-ups and waving at those traveling on the path nearby.
We are headed to Maine, where we will share a house with my father-in-law, helping him age in place. If you are traveling through Bethel, stop by the Norway Savings Bank to say hi or see if you can find the old Sunday River XC Ski Center “Poop Loop” where the fairies will begin their new life this fall.
Please welcome John and Maggie and their two-year old to the neighborhood. How lucky they are to get to live in this special neighborhood!”
It takes a brave and generous person to reach out to neighbors on FPF to go for a run, meet up for a game, or organize a block party. Sometimes the response is quiet, but often, new connections are created.
Steve and Laurel posted this in their Rockingham Forum. We thought it was well worth a share:
“Because we love to sing in community, we host a monthly potluck and sing event at our home in Bellows Falls. You don’t have to be a great singer; we’re doing this for fun, not as a performance.”
We caught up with Steve, who shared that they’ve been hosting for decades, regardless of where they live. They have many regulars, but reaching out on FPF has attracted others – some who come just once to try it out and others who become a familiar face and voice.
Meanwhile, Alisa posted in the Weathersfield Forum, “I have finally realized that it is silly that I do not know most of my neighbors, so I have decided to change that. I would like to invite you to a “Meet the Neighbors/Block Party” gathering.”
Afterwards, Alisa shared, “I want to say thank you to everyone who came to my house yesterday to say hello and meet your neighbors! It was a pleasure to meet you all, and I hope we can do it again sometime.
Until then, stay healthy, enjoy the summer, and if anyone needs anything and I am around, I would be happy to help. You all have my contact information.”
Nick posted this request in the Milton Forum. We thought it was well worth a share:
“My suburbanite sister, Sofia, is coming into town for a few days to throw me a baby shower. She thinks cows are just about the cutest animals on god’s green earth. She’s done so much for me, and I’d love to have a little surprise for her.
Sooo… is anyone in town willing to let us pet and/or feed a reasonably people-friendly cow? A calf would be a definite bonus.”
Carrie extended this generous offer on the Brandon Forum and Community Calendar. We thought it was well worth a share:
“Our family will be hosting a community breakfast every Monday on our front porch. This is our attempt to fill a void that many families face during summer break! Whether financially or logistically, it can be hard to shift into summer and accommodate the ten meals our kiddos usually eat at school. Also, Mondays are rough!!!
Today we had our first porch breakfast, and it was a hit! We had kids ride their bikes, families who walked down together, and others who stopped in for a quick minute to grab a bite. Some hung out and played games in the yard and listened to some uplifting music, a good start to a new week! Next week is pancakes and bacon, fresh fruit, cereal, and juice! I will have some to-go containers if people face time constraints. I’m happy to pack things up to go.”
Elections can cause quite a stir, and it’s been “ruff” in Middlebury as they debate which dog would be the strongest candidate for Mayor of Middlebury (as a light-hearted fundraiser for Homeward Bound Humane Society). We thought some of the nominations were worth a share:
Johanna said, “As I watch Nat campaign, I realize how he is a Mayor for all ages. He can assure safety and comfort for the elderly and model citizenship for children and youth. Nat makes everyone feel like they are seen and heard and this builds community.” Lindsey shared, “Nat, the Yorkipoo, will be on Court Street for a Honk & Wave and hopes to make people smile while they’re creeping through school dismissal traffic!”
Melinda chimed in, “I will be voting for Reggie. If you want a capable, conscientious, hard worker, than look no further than an Australian SHEPHERD. A MAYOR cannot be buddies to everyone. An Aussie knows how to maneuver and steer the city’s ship in the right direction.”
(And, because… Vermont, “The CAT Party is opposed to restrictions on eligible candidates for Middlebury Mayor and would welcome a coalition with the Turtle Party. Also underway are negotiations with the GoldFish Party and the HousePlant Party.” Braden contributed, “I’d like to unofficially nominate an absolute unit of a snapper that lives below the Battell Falls as the head of the incumbent mayor’s secret service detail. I put her up against any would-be challengers any day of the week, and twice on Sunday.”)
Jenn reports, “Good girl Tela, golden retriever/labrador mix, has been hard on the campaign trail, meeting people, kissing babies, tail wagging the whole way!”
Congratulations, Tela, on the win. May you serve Middlebury well.
Listen to this story shared by Carolyn in the Montpelier Forum! We thought it was well worth a share:
“For approximately 80 years, I have had bacon, eggs, and pancakes for breakfast on Sunday morning. Due to an electrical problem, my stove doesn’t work. As a result, I went to the Wayside for my traditional pancakes. I was pleasantly surprised when the waitress told me that an anonymous person had paid for my meal.
Thank you, anonymous person. In the current environment, that was a gift in so many ways.”
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